Eliminating Fear and Stress

Feel the fear and do it anyway. 

You may have heard of the book “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway” by Susan
Jeffers. Although this is not my favorite way of dealing with stress it does work and it
is a useful approach at times.  In my opinion this is the most stressful and difficult way to deal with your fears.
The idea is to consistently move beyond your own self limiting behavior.
For example let us say you are afraid of approaching people at networking events.
Your goal would be to gradually aim higher despite your fears. Here are the few approaches you can do over time
Attend a meeting with the goal of talking to just one new person.
Go to a meeting and this time initiate a conversation with three new people
without putting yourself under pressure to strike up a great conversation.

Self Talk and Stress

Self-talk refers to the dialogue that goes on inside your head when faced with conflict or life challenges or even simple day-to-day concerns. This aspect of yourself has a running commentary about everything you do. It never lets anything go by with out some comment, remark or evaluation.
Becoming aware of this process is the first step in taking charge of this part of yourself that can create a lot of unnecessary stress.

You’ll recognize these thoughts because you have heard them all your life; I’m not smart enough, something is wrong, I can’t do it, I never finish anything, this is too hard, change takes too long, etc. In effect you don’t need those people to tell you what to do anymore, they are living inside your own head!!!

How to make a change
First…awareness. You must become aware of the inner dialogue. Begin to notice when it shows up, what it is telling you.  Pay attention to what you thinkSee if you can start to recognize the repetitive nature of the thoughts.

Second…you don’t HAVE to react to the thoughts your mind presents you. It is a habit you can break with awareness. The moment you notice that it is just a THOUGHT and not a COMMAND you have a choice. You are in touch with your “observing self”. That gap or moment of awareness allows you to notice the thought and CHOOSE to do what you have always done or CHOOSE to do something different.

Can You Really Think Yourself Happy?

Believe it or not, it is within your power to create positive thoughts allowing you to accomplish anything you set out to do.  Can you really think yourself happy?  The answer is a qualified yes. Here are the ways in which positive thoughts can help you accomplish many things in life.

Positive thoughts produce positive results.  We can either bemoan our situation, or change it. We can be negative about an event or enthusiastic. President Lincoln once said, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” If you really want to think yourself happy, then make up your mind to do so. It may be difficult to think happy in a world filled with hatred and violence.  But it’s not impossible.  One person, one idea, one positive thought can change society.  How, then, can we make ourselves happy?  By being a constant reminder to others that there is goodness in the world.

• Seek out positive people to associate with.
• Expose yourself to all the wonderful books, music and movies available.
• Find the one important thing in your life that’s important, and pursue it.
• Show kindness and respect towards others.
• Live life as if every day is your last.
• Use positive reinforcement wherever and whenever you can.
• Use visualization methods to view the positive aspects of life.
• Speak in a positive tone.
• Rid your mind of negative thinking with yoga and exercise.
• Let your expectations reflect your positive attitude.
• Allow peace of mind to envelop you.
• Become your own best friend.

There is a wonderful poem which clearly explains how unhappiness can thwart our every desire.

If you think you are beaten you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t;
If you want to win but think you can’t;
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose you’re lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will;
It’s all in a state of mind.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger and faster man.

Happiness is not a genetic trait we are born with.  It is ingrained in us by our parents and those we love.  It is up to us, then, to maintain it, share it, and build our lives around it.  Think happy, and you will be happy.

Enlightenment – Your 7 Day Program To Positive Thinking

I’m sure you have a bright idea hidden somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can’t wait to test out. Of course you’re not the only one with the bright idea. So what motivates you to churn those creative, or even inspiring juices to its utmost flavor?

It’s always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV. A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.

Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you’re just sitting in your favorite couch. An idea takes time to form in your head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.

Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are never thought possible. Thinking big is indeed the American Way and that what made our country prosperous.

1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is void.  This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.
2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The American Dream will always be there, but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins.
3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome. Every time you hit on something that may appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work. You will be surprised to see of there are other ways to get the task done in time. If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift.
4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way. Slipping into neediness will become less of a habit when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.
5. Use a Passion Formula of Reveal/Release/Rejuvenate in place of the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack. As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is just as important as giving out orders. You would rather be richly passionate!
6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up!  Life has so much to offer to allow yourself to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate: life-giving.
7. Believe that you are the architect of your own destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you except you! Create your life authentically. As long as there’s still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime. The concept of thinking big is all about enjoying your work, which leads to self discovery. Watch your life as your passions flow into place with perfect, passionate and precision.

It’s interesting how people get consumed by something trivial.  But now you know you can create your life and take the first step with a positive attitude.

Stress Management – Take Back Your Mind Tip

This seems so easy to say, and such a challenge to do.  We live in such a technically advanced society, that finding simple solutions isn’t always our first approach and isn’t always easy.

The more complicated our lives, the more stressors we place on ourselves and the more stressful situations we find ourselves in.  Keeping things simple can reduce your stress.

What is one thing in your life that seems too complicated?

What are 3 simple solutions that you could use to make it less complicated?

Simplify Your Life

One of the things that gives me most peace is have a clean, simple home. When I wake up in the morning and walk out into a living room that has been decluttered, that has a minimalist look, and there isn’t junk lying around, there is a calm and joy that enters my heart.
When, on the other hand, I walk out into a living room cluttered with toys and books and extra things all over the place, it is chaos and my mind is frenetic.
I’ve been a simplifier and a declutter for years now (probably 8-9 years) and I’ve gotten pretty good at it, but I’ve found that you have to keep coming back to revisit your clutter every once in awhile.

Here are my top decluttering tips:

1. Do it in small chunks. Set aside just 15 minutes to declutter just one shelf, and when that shelf or that 15 minutes is up, celebrate your victory. Then tackle another shelf for 15 minutes the next day. Conquering an entire closet or room can be overwhelming, and you might put it off forever. If that’s the case, just do it in baby steps.
2. Set aside a couple hours to do it. This may seem contradictory to the above tip … and it is. It’s simply a different strategy, and I say do whatever works for you. Sometimes, for me, it’s good to set aside part of a morning, or an entire Saturday morning, to declutter a closet or room. I do it all at once, and when I’m done, it feels awesome.
3. Have I used this in the past year?” is the question to ask when it comes to clothes, shoes, kitchen appliances, all that stuff in the garage or the work shed. Only keep what you really have use for. Your brain plays tricks on you like telling yourself you can lose that 20 lbs in only a few months.
4. Your material goods hold little resale value no matter what you paid for them. This is a hard lesson to come to terms with because you know how much you paid for something. It is particularly hard for electronic goods since they are so costly upfront but become obsolete so fast. Good luck re-selling your bulky CRT monitor set in the age of LCD.
5. Sort through your pile, one item at a time, and make quick decisions. Have a trash bag and a give-away box handy. When you pull everything out of a shelf or drawer, sort through the pile one at a time. Pick up an item, and make a decision: trash, give away, or keep. Don’t put it back in the pile. Do this with the entire pile, and soon, you’ll be done. If you keep sorting through the pile, and re-sorting, it’ll take forever. Put back only what you want to keep, and arrange it nicely.

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