Stress Can Cause Chronic Headaches

Do you seem to get headaches frequently?  Not migraine headaches that incapacitate you, but common headaches that creep up on you and ruin your day. Stop looking for another pill to pop and try to identify the source of these headaches, which may be brought on by stress.

Stress and Tension – Stress has a way of accumulating like the clutter in your hall closet. Eventually, it just overflows. Along with stress, you feel tension in your muscles. And the tension spreads until your shoulders are tired, your neck feels like it can’t hold up your head and eventually – your head throbs.

The pain actually comes from decreased blood flow to you head, but that’s the physical explanation. The human body is 65% water dehydration triggors headaches and migranes.  The real root cause is stress.  If you want to stop the tension headaches, you have to take time to relax.

Walk away from work and take a break. Don’t bring work home with you. Give yourself twenty minutes to unwind after work. Lie down or recline in a comfortable chair. Put a cool gel pack over your eyes and think about anything except your to-do list and the problems of the day. You may prefer to use that time to meditate or pray. Just give yourself time to transition so that you can enjoy your dinner and prepare for a good nights sleep.  Drink at least 8 – 10 glasses of water a day.  All of these things will help reduce your stress levels and tension headaches.

 
Insomnia – You simply have to have a good night’s sleep. That means 8 hours, not 5 hours and a cat nap. You need enough restful sleep to allow the body to repair itself and overcome what you put it through during the day. If you aren’t getting enough sleep or good quality sleep, you are a candidate for headaches. And don’t try to self-medicate with sleep aids. See your doctor to find out the reason for the sleep problem and work it out.

Listen to the message in your headache and do something to gain long term relief.

Stress Management – What To Do When You Lose Of Your Job

A job loss is extremely stressful at anytime.  But today considering the economy and the current job market ,one of the most challenging personal crises an individual may have to face is coping with job loss. Unemployment, divorce and the death of a loved one are considered to be the most stressful events that can happen during a person’s lifetime.

The loss of personal identity associated with the job can be more devastating than the loss of income. There are problems to be dealt with, questions to be answered and decisions to be made. You must recognize this and admit that there is likely to be a major change in your life. The threat to your personal and family security is the biggest change.

Fears Associated with Transitioning

• What will I do with myself?
• What will others think of me if I fail?
• How am I going to define myself?
• Will I/we survive financially?
• Will I be able to get the perfect job for me?

Ask Yourself the Following

• What actually happened to cause me to lose my job?
• How did I receive news of the lay off?
• How did I react to the news?
• How long was I in that particular job?
• What was my relationship with my boss, my subordinates and my colleagues?

Coping With Stress
While you may not be able to prevent a job loss, you may be able to use some of the following coping strategies to make the loss easier to handle.

Give yourself time:
Allow yourself appropriate time to adjust to the new realities.

Embrace change:
Embrace the quote by Louis Pasteur, “Change favors the prepared mind.” Remind yourself that change can mean growth and that rigidity is counterproductive. Develop the ability to be flexible.

Pursue support from others:
You cannot do everything alone. Your family and loved ones can help provide the moral and emotional support that is needed.

• Talk with family and friends.
• Involve your family in the decision making process.

Live in the present:
People can carry a huge burden called guilt and anger about experiences. This will rob you of energy and create more stress.

Treat yourself right!
Exercise. Eat a balanced diet. Get plenty of sleep. Read a good book. Go to the movies. Find fun and interesting things to do that don’t cost much.

Know your limitations:
You cannot change others or circumstances, only yourself. Re-evaluate your direction:

Figure out your next steps:
Make a job search plan. Use multiple resources.

Implement your plan:
This is your new job until you have a new position you want. Being actively engaged in your job search will bring you nearer your goals and will go a long way toward alleviating stress.

Seek professional help:
If the stress becomes overwhelming and you are unable to function in a fairly normal way, seek help from your family doctor, clergy, a psychologist or social worker, or a hospital or community mental health center.

You’ll find you have a tremendous responsibility as you decide on your next career, determine your financial requirements, select health and life insurance plans, sort out your benefits and take steps to secure your future goals. It may take some time, however, if you target desired outcomes, plan accordingly and work diligently, you’ll, eventually, achieve your goals. Fortunately, you’re not alone.

Stress Management – It’s Easy to De-Stress – Just Say No!

Those most in need of stress management frequently are not the busy executive or the seeker of learning and higher consciousness. Mostly it’s people who are so busy with their hectic stress filled lifestyle they don’t have time to read a book much less meditate for 30 minutes a day. A “half an hour” sputters the busy homemaker, “I could have dinner made in half an hour”. Most of us are a product of the television and technology age. Suffering from have to have it now and it should be faster syndrome.

You take on the extra project and your to-do list becomes even as expansive. You find yourself helping friends or family who seek your assistants with tasks they find they aren’t able to complete. How do you say no and still look like a good guy or good gal.

Unless you have a ready made excuse – you can’t because you’re working or you’re out of town it’s really can be difficult to say no. Saying no we put ourselves on a self inflicted guilt trip. Feeling guilty not being able to help, and overwhelmed and resentful by the prospect of putting another task on the list. After all it’s in our nature to want to help others. It makes you feel wanted and needed.

Women in particular have difficulty with saying no. Being taught to be non-assertive and passive and to always be a help. Look up the word help-mate a companion and helper husband or wife. But let’s face it how many time have you heard the word used when talking about the husband? None right. Women take on the lion’s share of home responsibilities. Couple that with being the breadwinner and you may have a combination that screams “I’m stressed out”.

It’s time to put ourselves as #1 on our to-do list. We have to take care of ourselves first. And that means saying no to adding more on the list. Keep in mind that by saying no when you can’t take on another task is far better for your mental health because you won’t harbor any resentment of doing something for someone else when you essentially don’t have time or desire to do so. One thing you may not think of is to say no to technology. Turn off the phone, turn off the computer and television. They cry for attention, much in the same way as a friend or family does. And when they scream, rest and relaxation will simply float away.

Take care of yourself first. Remember you’re not the rescue squad.

Stress Management – 7 Reasons to Avoid Mismanaging Time With Multi-Tasking

Time management the great illusion. Often we talk about managing our time as if it were as simple as following steps one two three, and I guess in some ways it is. We all know, you can’t get back loss time. So in an effort to get more done on any given day you may decide multi-tasking is the answer. But this leads to mismanaging time and causes stress.

Do you think you can get three things done at once? If you do you’d have better think again. Any attempt to do so is foolhardy. Attempting to do too many task at the same time equals disaster in the form is mistakes, confusion not to mention the excessive stress and anxiety of trying to keep 3 balls in the air at the same time.

7 reasons to avoid multi-tasking time mismanagement

1. Attempting to complete several tasks or projects at the same time, causes overwhelm and incomplete projects
2. Thinking of more than one project at any given time causes errors and misjudgement
3. It causes fatigue and frustration at what you may feel as lack of “real” progress
4. Frequently causes a cluttered desk and a cluttered mind
5. Causes lack of creativity as you attempt to keep tasks sorted in your own mind there is no room for creativity
6. Projects take longer because of lack of focus
7. Causes you to feel more stressed and anxious

Here are a few ways to be more effective with the time you do have.

Brain dump by writing everything down. Once it’s written on paper begin to transfer the tasks onto a calendar. Write it in pencil so you can make changes easily. Keep a small notebook nearby. Instead of trying to remember everything that needs to be done write it in your notebook for safekeeping. Maintain one calendar combining your work and personal events and tasks to be sure nothing is forgotten. As tasks are completed use a yellow marker to highlight the task indicating it was completed. If you find you’re not able to complete a task on a specific date re-write the task on a new date.

If you find you have moved the task to 3 different dates because it was not completed, decide if the task is important, do you need to complete it or should it be placed as part of a longer term commitment. Finally, decide if your procrastinating and if you are, figure out why and make a decision as to what to do about it.

Is the job too big? How about breaking it down into smaller pieces. Often, the reason we find we can’t complete a task is because the task seems enormous and we become overwhelmed. The best way to break down the project is to list all the components of the task. For instance if the task is to clean the bedroom then list all the areas of the bedroom that need attention. For each component list the subcomponents – in this case list what specifically needs to be cleaned. In this case you’ll find cleaning the bedroom become easy because as you complete the tasks on you list you’ll find cleaning the bedroom becomes easy as you tackle one area at a time.

How your Relationship Can Be the Root of Your Stress

We’ve all heard the saying that money is the root of all evil (not true of course).  But have you heard that relationships can be the root of your stress?   You can juggle your bills you can juggle your time but you can’t always juggle your relationships. 

Relationships include more then family members, it could be friends, co-workers neighbors and even people you do business with.  Some relationships can be severed without much change in your daily habits.  While others can’t actually be changed – after all you can’t change your family.

Evaluate your support systems.  Are they actually supportive and non-judgemental.  Do they give advice but not the criticism.  Do they care about you with no strings attached.  Are you satisfied with the support they offer. 

When in a  relationship that causes you stress, learn how to handle that  stress will improve your relationship.  It requires good communication skills, on both sides.  You learn to listen as well as speak your mind.  It takes two to build or destroy a relationship. 

If I could only pick two things to build a relationship it would be to learn to laugh and to learn to listen. 

Laughter
Researchers now believe that laughter is one of the cheapest and most powerful therapies at everyone disposal.  The act of laughing helps to stabilize your blood pressure and improve your circulation.  And improving your relationship is a by-product of this good feeling.

Listening
A good listener does more than just stand there without saying anything.  Be an active listener by verbally and non-verbally acknowledging what’s being said.  Remember your facial expressions.  Look the other person in the eye.  Finally, don’t begin formulating your response before the speaker finishes what they are saying. 

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Motivate Yourself by Knowing Who You Are

What is that saying? We can fool some of the people some of the time. When it comes to ourselves, we can’t even get away with a suspicious look. For goal setting, it is important to truly know yourself.
Motivation is the process we use to continue doing something. It can come in the form of rewards, support, self-affirmations, or visual aids. With any goals that we set, there has to be a motivating force behind it to spur us on to success. We have to have a reason for continuing on until we reach our goal.

 
What motivates us? That is the $64,000 question. To begin, learn a bit about yourself. I know that people say that they don’t know who they are, but we each have a basic idea that we can build upon. Here are a few things to help get the juices flowing and aid in figuring out who you really are. From there, you’ll be able to find your motivation and complete your goals successfully.

 
Motivation is a mind game. To be more exact, it is a tool of the subconscious mind. Negative thinking brings about negative results. All the motivation in the world can’t overcome the power of negative self-talk on the subconscious mind.

 
Learning a few things about yourself is the key to finding the motivation to achieve your goals. Without taking a good look in the mirror, goals will be sabotaged from within more than they ever will from other people or circumstances.