Stress free living is having an open, honest dialogue with myself helps me to communicate with others.

June 30, 2009

When you  communicate effectively with others you’re able to be true to yourself.

Open honest dialogue allows you to have a deeper level of communication because you’re fully aware of your thoughts and feelings. You know what you want to say because you have thought it through and talked realistically and honestly with yourself first.

Respect and value your ability to communicate your inner thoughts effectively.  You can do this when you practice what you say before you say it.

Coming to a full understanding of yourself allows you to think through any frustrations and realize how your words may affect others.

Vent frustrations, share excitement, and be prepared for conversations by first reflecting on your own needs. Often you’ll find that what you really want to say is very different from the way you first felt about the situation.

Be open and honest with yourself first, and you’ll be able to convey your feelings with others with confidence. You’ll find your relationships are stronger because you first had a conversation with you.

When you’re feeling frustrated prepare for communication by first talking with yourself.  Choose to take the time to vent any frustrations and sift through unnecessary dialogue in your own conversation before you have it with others.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Have you thought through what you want to communicate?

2. Have you had the conversation with yourself first?

3. How did the conversation with yourself lead to a better communication experience?

Stress Free Living De-Stressology Lesson – Think Positive

June 26, 2009

Think Positive- Positive thoughts lead to positive results. Surround yourself with positive energy and this energetic vibe will be released into your lifestyle and daily habits.

Feel do and be the good vibe.

Stress Free Living – Get Rid Of The Need to Create Obstacles In Your Life

June 22, 2009

Obstacles create roadblocks. My time is precious to me. I have a full and active life with many things to do. I enjoy accomplishments, and feeling strong and empowered. I establish these characteristics because I choose not to create obstacles in my life. I am firm with my goals so I can accomplish all my  tasks without distraction.

Set yourself up for success, by staying ahead of the game.  Should something unexpected come up, be  prepared to rearrange your schedule at the drop of the hat.  Your more successful when you follow your plans and avoid the procrastination.

Creating roadblocks or obstacles for yourself through procrastination is self-defeating unhealthy behavior. Letting go of negative choices in life enables you to move forward positively and productively. Be strong because it keeps the road clear ahead of you.  You can move forward with confidence and self-assurance.

Just for today, stay focused on what is ahead of you and let go of any obstacles or chaos in your life. Accept your success and strengths, and enjoy moving forward with your head held high.

Stress Free Living – Five Secrets of Getting More Done Everyday

June 17, 2009

If you’ve ever looked at your work day and thought how am I going to get it all done you’re not alone.  Sometimes you have to get creative to figure out how to get more done in the time you have, especially when it feels like you don’t have enough time. Doing it all  without depleting your energy.

1.  You Can Be More Efficient

One huge way to get more done in less time is to stop. That’s right, stop! If you’re over-worked and stressed out, you won’t get nearly as much done and you’re more prone to foolish mistakes. Sometimes you want to take a break and completely detached yourself from work. You’ll find that taking a break is just what you need the most – even if it seems to be the opposite of what you should be doing. The best part: once you come back to the task, you’ll feel reinvigorated and more creative!

2.  Prioritize First Things First

You need to make an organized and frequently updated list of priorities. When you prioritize outstanding tasks, you’ll suddenly find that all of the work on your plate really is manageable. You can prioritize using letters or numbers so you clearly can see what needs to be done and when it needs to be done by.

3.  Combining Similar Tasks

Combine your various projects that can be done at the same time. For instance, instead of going from errand to errand with no set plan create a schedule to make one trip and make multiple stops if reasonable.  Set a specific day of the week to run your errand if possible. You can work out a similar plan with work projects, group similar projects that require the same tools or resources so they can be done more efficiently. Since you have already organized your priorities, you’ll be more aware of what needs to get done, so you’ll be able to better combine similar tasks.

4.  Know When To Get Help

You’re one person, and you can only do so much, so ask for help! You’ll be able to accomplish a whole lot more with less time and effort when you work with the support of a “team”.  Maybe it’s a colleague or a personal assistance and if all else fails you can go t a freelance website like Elance,  It’s not as expensive as you think and your time is valuable!

An assistant can help you re-gain time and save energy so you can get the essential tasks done.  Delegate what you can and do only those tasks that must be done by you.

5,  The Power Of Using Affirmations

Affirmations are another tool that can help you get more done with less work. These simple statements can help you maximize your time by focusing on the positive. When your work feels overwhelming you can say something like, “Each simple, completed task propels me towards success.” Repeating these affirmations will give you a positive state of mind that just may be the extra push you need to get more done with less work, in less time and less effort.

Stress Free Living De-Stressology Tip – Take Time To Relax

June 16, 2009

De-stress- remaining healthy is not just about go, go, go. You also need to stop, relax and re-stress. Stress is unavoidable at some times. The best way to deal with stress is to push away from it for a few minutes, let your body relax, and then tackle it head on.

Stress Free Living De-Stressology Tip – What kind of information do you need in a hurry?

June 8, 2009

It seems like you can spend half your life on the phone.  Spending an equal amount of time looking for phone numbers and names.  The directory is cumbersome and almost unusable if you can find it.  Putting them on your outlook means you have to re-boot your computer. 

Here’s a neat trick:  tear out sheets from your notepad and label each as kitchen, bedroom and living room. 

Jot down the following telephone numbers:

  • supermarket
  • take out pizza and other delivery shops
  • drug store
  • dry cleaner’s
  • doctors and dentists
  • walk-in clinic
  • florist
  • bookstore
  • airport

Or better still put them in your cell phone

Stress Free Living De-Stressology Tip – Focus On The Positive Side

June 5, 2009

Focus on the positive side of the situation. There’s usually something positive in almost any situation.  You just have to look for it.  So are you looking are you letting the positive side of life past you by?

Stress Free Living – Pets are Good for Your Health?

June 4, 2009

If you think that pet care makes your life more stressful you just might not have the right idea. Caring for a pet can be good for your physical and mental health. Your animal friend with their unconditional love is a loyal and valuable member of your family.

This bond is just as strong and significant as any bond between two people..

Friendship

A pet can bring fulfillment into the lives of those who might otherwise might be lonely or depressed. Dogs, specifically, provide a feeling of safety and help keep you active.

Mature adults, especially those who’ve lost a spouse, can find comfort and friendship in a pet. Owning a pet gives them a sense of being needed.

Children

Children who are shy can benefit greatly from having a pet. A pet can help draw a timid child out of their shell. There are many other benefits of having a pet for a child:

  • A pet can be a good way to start a conversation and make friends.
  • A family pet can boost a child’s self-esteem.
  • Pets can give a child a sense of protection and security.
  • Pet ownership can help teach children about interaction, compassion and responsibility.
  • Pets can also help children cope with and overcome fears. For example, a child that’s afraid to go to sleep in his own room may adapt more easily if the family cat or dog is allowed to accompany them to bed.

Exercise

Pets can keep you active. Dogs need regular exercise and their owners can reap the rewards of keeping fit and healthy in the process. Having a dog forces you to get up and go outside whether you want to or not.

Taking the dog for a nice leisurely walk is a great way to get moving, enjoy the outdoors, and get some fresh air. If you feel up to it, you can always go for a run with your dog. You’ll both get some exercise and have fun.

If health prevents you from walking a dog, consider getting a cat instead. Cats can be very loveable and energetic. Toss a ball across the floor or pull out a ball of yarn, and your cat will keep you both entertained for hours.

A cat may not bring much in terms of exercise but you can look forward to plenty of laughs, and laughter is great for your health, too!

Health Benefits

Studies have shown owning a pet provides many health benefits. People with pets tend to have lower cholesterol, lower blood pressure, a stronger immune system, and are generally healthier. Pet owners who’ve suffered a major illness recuperate quicker than those without a pet.

Pets have even been shown to increase a person’s immunity to allergies, especially in children. Owning a pet can reduce the risk of allergies, asthma and even heart disease.

Stress

People with pets also tend to be more positive and have less stress. They’re better able to cope with anxiety and deal with stressful situations. The action of petting a dog or cat can relieve stress and lower blood pressure. Pets help people relax and can even improve their attitude.

Socialization

A pet can help break the ice when meeting new people. Pet owners who are new to their neighborhood or have difficulty meeting people may find that their pets give them a chance to make new friends.

Animals are naturally curious and conversations may start between two dog owners and a new pet and people friendship begins.

There’s a reason pets were put on this earth as friends, and we’ve only touched on some of them here. If you’re considering letting a pet join your household, it’s proven that they can do positive things for your health. Get a pet, and enjoy!

Stress Free Living De-Stressology Tip – Adjusting to Work Stress

June 4, 2009

Think about ways you can adjust to each change at work that cause you stress.  Create a stress journal and document stressful situation as a way process your feeling and identify solutions

Stress Free Living – Creating a Simple Life

June 3, 2009

Confucius once said, “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”

If you  make life complicated and fill it up with a bunch “stuff,” how can you ever focus on what matters most?

Many of you are running around trying to squeeze everything you can out of life when, in fact, you’d be a whole lot happier and healthier if you would savored the beauty of simplicity!

Here are some tips you can use today to simplify your life:
Clutter. When you eliminate the clutter around you, you’ll gain a deeper appreciation for the things are dearest to you.

Ask yourself: When was the last time I read the stack of books piled up on the floor? When did I last notice the details on one of those little trinkets I got while on vacation? When did I last wear the scarf lying on the closet floor? Give this stuff to someone who needs it!

De-cluttering will give you an opportunity to enjoy the things that truly matter to you. Plus you’ll feel a sense of relief with an organized working and living space.

Food. Food is another aspect of your life that can be simplified in many ways. Instead of worrying about the next bite, enjoy the taste of the food that’s already in your mouth. Savor it. Let it all sink in and try to taste each flavor.

Also, consider the ingredients in your food. Take the time to use quality ingredients instead of processed or chemically enhanced foods. The end result will taste better, and your body and mind will thank you for the nourishment!

Gadgets. Think of all the gizmos and gadgets in your life. Do you use them all? Do you even use half of them?

The more stuff we have to “connect” us, the more we become disconnected! Take the headphones out of your ears, turn off the car radio, and put down your cell phone. Instead of trying to be always connected, communicate with those around you. Nothing is more satisfying than a rewarding conversation or a family fun night!

Thinking. A cluttered mind steers you away from what’s most important. The reality is that simple ideas are almost always better. By simplifying your thinking, you open your mind to new possibilities.

A simplified mind doesn’t mean you aren’t thinking, it just means that you’re choosing to focus on one thing with greater clarity.

When your attention is split in several directions, it’s awfully hard to make rational decisions. And if you’re dwelling in the past or worrying about the future, how can you live in the moment? Release distractions from your mind and you’ll not only feel better, but you’ll regain a sense of peace within you.

Schedule. If you’re trying to jam a week into a single day, you’ll feel a tension that will tug you away from where you’re meant to be. Instead of wondering what’s next, savor the here and now.
Eliminate some of the clutter in your hectic schedule and do what’s best for you and your family, not everyone else.

Living simply is much easier then you think When you simplify, you eliminate many of the useless cares and are able to focus on what’s really important to you. Give it a try!

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