Is Your Office Sending YOU the Wrong Message?

Mindset is everything.  When you’re office ain’t right your business ain’t right.  Have you ever walked into your office and though49297833873e912fcd152c9716908c13t

“where to I start”

“How do I start”

“Should I start”

Well if that’s happened to you you’re not alone.  Having an organized messy office creates a messy work environment and that in turn creates messy work.

Something a simple as rearranging your office furniture can communicate a better message about your strengths.  Your office space is a statement about you and your brand so it pays off in impressions by arranging your office space to portray the right visuals.

Also, your furniture arrangement can improve collaboration and agreements.  Consider where a member of your team or client sits when discussing a project with you. Is the chair directly across from yours? Does the person sit a bit lower than you and have to look up when speaking directly to you?  This positioning places them at a disadvantage and elicits a more competitive than collaborative spirit.

Try placing the guest chair to the side of your desk instead of across the space from you.  If space allows, create a conversation area away from your main desk.  A smaller circular table with 2-3 chairs placed around it is more conducive to collaboration.  King Arthur had the right idea using a round table for strategy sessions with his Knights of the Round Table.

Action Step

How does your office space look?  Is it cluttered and disorganized? It’s time to clear the desk and evaluate your office setting.

“Atten Hut” Change Your Energy…Stand Tall

Sitting in front of my computer sometimes for hours on end if sometimes that my shoulders feel stiff, I ache and worse yet I fee Posture-at-Work-Infographic1sluggish.  Not a very good feeling if you are working hard to try to build a business.

Have you ever watched soldiers marching in formation?  Perhaps you attended a military function where the battalion marched on the parade field or even in a movie.  Maybe it was your own child wearing a uniform.

Did the soldier have sagging shoulders or assume a slouched posture?  Training soldiers to establish a strong posture whether they are standing still in a formation or marching on a parade field has a strong impact to both the individual as well as the observer.

Standing tall with shoulders back and solid presents a confident personality. And this practice is backed by research.  Results from a study by the Kellogg School of Management, Northwestern University, Evanston, IL, USA reported that posture indicates a lot about your self-esteem. The research linked sitting or standing with expansive posture (wide open and tall) with personal feelings of power, confidence in decision making, and control.

Your posture indicates a lot about your self esteem. Another study completed by the Department of Kinesiology and Health Science, York University, Toronto, Ontario revealed that people with an upright posture easily recall positive thoughts and tend to have a stronger self-image. This can also help them push aside negative thoughts and worry.

Action Point

If you spend a lot of hours slumped in a chair make it a practice to check your sitting posture throughout the day. Another strategy is to spend more time standing while you work.  Do you think you’ll get your tasks done more quickly if you do them standing instead of sitting? Check out stand-up computer desks.

 

Inspirational Quote – Worry Doesn’t Work

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow.

It empties today of its strength

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Inspirational Quote – It’s Okay To Change Your Mind

 

You are always free to change your mind and choose a different future or a different past

What are you going to change your mind about today?

 

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Living Without Fear Part 5 Today Is A New day In Your Life.

The closer and closer you get to the end of the mini-series, the further and further your problem with fear will fade away.  5

You’ll get the help you’re so desperately seeking, and the economic recession won’t seem like such a weight on your shoulders.

Just keep reading for solutions…

Here’s the bombshell:   The more you try to avoid discomfort, the harder it will be to make important changes.

Change involves risk.

Change requires you to face your fears and  step out of your comfort zone – both of  which point to one thing…

…Change will usually give rise to uncomfortable feelings.

By now you’re well aware of the whole vicious cycle that results when you try to avoid discomfort and ignore your fears.

The only effective solution is true ACCEPTANCE. Not tolerance or “putting up with it.”

So, make room for the discomfort your fears cause, and focus on taking effective action.

The mind is an expert at coming up with reasons for not doing the things we really want to do.

But the first thing to realize is that reasons are just excuses.

The second thing to realize is that thoughts don’t control facts.

Does this surprise you?

Just check your own experience. How often had you been fearful of something that never came to pass?

With me you can learn to stop the struggle.  That is IF you are willing.  Whenever a fear presents itself, you can either say yes or no to it.

If you say yes to your fears, your life stagnates and shrinks.

If you say no to your fears, your life gets bigger and better.

If you keep saying no, there’s no guarantee life will get easier, because the next fear may be just as difficult, or worse.

But saying no to fear will become more of a habit, and the experience you gain from this gives you a reservoir of strength.

Even if you don’t WANT to say no, you can still CHOOSE to.  And each time you make that choice, you grow stronger.

And, at the same time, the more you practice this, the less discomfort you’ll actually have to deal with.

Eventually your fears will become a lot easier to live with because they don’t get amplified.

In other words, you’re willing to accept your natural fears, even though you may not want them.

So now, turn your attention to giving yourself the opportunity to undermine the struggle that fear has created in you.

At this point, you have a choice.

You can turn back or keep going…

I suggest you keep going….

Good luck and if you’re still  having struggles dealing with fear drop me a line.

Living Without Fear Part 4 – What’s Keeping You Bound To FEAR?

How’s it all going? Are you taking action?

Have you begun to make some meaningful changes in your life? Are your recession fears starting to ease?4

If not, you’ve probably come up against at least one or two obstacles…obstacles so universal that they’ve sideswiped us all.

You see as soon as you start to set a goal such as getting rid of your fears your mind will start to broadcast:

“I can’t do it”

“I’m wasting my time”

“I can’t change”

…or any other your habitual thoughts.

If you give these thoughts attention, you’re in trouble.

The solution is to let them come and go and re-focus back to taking effective action.

Let’s spend some time discussing excessive expectations and how they  bound you to fear.

So let me ask you, are your goals for beating this fears too big?  The trick is not expecting to do too much, too soon.

Don’t fall into the trap of perfectionism. This increases your fears and only stifles your progress.

Do you expect to achieve your goals even though you lack the necessary skills or resources?

For example, if this recession has forced you to change jobs, you may need to take the necessary time to learn new skills. This can cause a tremendous amount of fear!  And if you lack the resources you need  to achieve a particular goal (such as time, money, healthy, energy, support, equipment, or knowledge), then you’ll need to figure out how you can find them.

If there’s no way to find these resources in your current situation, then you’ll need to let go of that goal for now and set yourself a more realistic one.

And another thing… don’t  sweat the mistakes.

Know that making mistakes is a fundamental part of being human. You learn by making mistakes and you’re made stronger with each obstacle you overcome.  When you stumble, you learned what *not* to do and how you can do it differently.   This is how you grow wiser!

Making mistakes is an essential part of learning to beat your fears.  So embrace it.

Let go of perfection.

Tomorrow, you’ll learn to escape your fears and find true satisfaction in life…

Living Without Fear Part 3 – Still Waiting For the Other Shoe To Drop?

Are you ready to learn how to observe your emotions in an effort to free yourself from fears.  3

Now, listen to me very carefully… while you begin to practice expanding your thinking, negative thoughts will continually try to distract you.

It will pass judgments on your feelings or try to analyze them or increase your fears or tell you that you can’t handle moving forward.

That’s normal.

But with what you’ll learn here, this constant chatter in your mind won’t be a problem.  The key is to let these thoughts come and go as they please.  Acknowledge their presence, but don’t focus on them.  Treat negative thoughts as clouds passing in the sky – you know they’re there, but you don’t have to peer out the window each time one goes by.  And if you do get caught up, the moment you realize it, gently shift your focus back to what you were doing.

Here’s an easy and effective way to defuse fear:

  1.  Take ten deep breaths, as slowly as you     possibly can. You can close your eyes if you choose.
  2. Focus on the rise and fall of your rib cage and the air moving in and out of your lungs.
  3. Notice the sensations as the air flows in: your chest rising, your shoulders lifting, your lungs expanding.
  4. Notice what you feel as the air flows    out: your chest falling, your shoulders    dropping, the breath leaving your    nostrils.
  5. Focus completely on emptying your lungs.
  6. Push out every last bit of air, feeling your lungs deflate, and pause for a moment before breathing in again.
  7. As you breathe in, notice how your stomach gently pushes outward.
  8. Now just let any thoughts and images come and go in the background.   Without  judgment.
  9. When a new thought or image appears, briefly acknowledge its presence but keep you attention on the breath.
  10. 10. You may find it helpful to say to yourself   ”Peace. I am at peace”  whenever  a thought or image appears.

Give this a try, and if it’s helpful in fusing your fears, keep doing it.

Read through the instructions once more and then give it a try.

Your mind will never stop telling you fearful, unpleasant stories (at least not for long) that’s just what your mind was designed to do.So be realistic and you will see dramatic improvements.

Now it’s time to move on. in tomorrow’s lesson, we’ll start to wipe away the struggle.