Everyone makes mistakes – develop tolerance and patience. The first step to finding peace of mind for yourself and others is by developing tolerance for mistakes. Even you make mistakes too.
Get motivated by exercising with a friend. Exercises releases endorphins and boost your spirit. It a great way to maintain a healthy weight. Exercising can be difficult if your not inspired to be active. So call a friend make a “date” to get fit together. When you exercise with a friend you encourage each other to go a little further then you would have alone.
Tip # 1 Everything starts and ends with the self
If someone said to you that you were a procrastinator, what would immediate reaction be. Denial, confirmation or a deer in the headlight look. .
Some people like to blame their lack of action on others. But the truth is, you are procrastinate because you yourself choose to procrastinate. The sooner you accept that, the better you’ll be able to overcome procrastination.
Tip # 2 Latin phrase Mea Culpa- It’s My Fault So Take Responsibility
You’ve accepted the fact that (a) you’re a procrastinator, and (b) you have a sincere desire to change. Now tell yourself that if you fail to achieve a particular goal or a given task, it’s because you procrastinated. Mea culpa. Admitting guilt or responsibility is a giant step. Note, however, that there is a huge difference between admitting guilt and being too hard on yourself. Admitting guilt is taking ownership of your actions. Being too hard on yourself is unjustified self-blame.
Tip # 3 Ask: In what ways do I procrastinate?
Ask yourself, “In what ways do I procrastinate?” Sit down with pen and paper. Writing them will help you focus and identify them more clearly. Here are some ways where you may procrastinate:
- paying bills
- not discussing the complaints you’ve received about a member of your team for fear of hurting his/her feelings
- repeatedly postponing a medical or dental appointment because you’ve got better things to do
- not returning the call of your son’s teacher because you know what the problem is and you’re fed up
not discussing your resentment about your husband spending too much time at work or with his buddies
- not getting that hair cut, that dress dry-cleaned, that donation mailed
- not visiting a sick relative in the hospital
- not telling your significant other you no longer love her/him
- not calling your doctor about that persistent numbness in your right arm or not fixing a colonoscopy exam date
- not having the car’s squeaking brakes checked
- not going to confession because you never know what the priest’s schedule is
not sending that overdue thank you note or making that overdue call to your mother-in-law
Tip # 4 Better in black and white than dreaming in technicolor
That’s just our way of saying that when you read things on paper, you’re able to act logically; this is much more effective than just thinking out how to avoid procrastination.
Putting down things in black and white is even better than brainstorming with another person. Here’s the reason: if you write down what needs to be done, you’re the only one who knows what’s urgent and important.
You focus on this task from the implementation to completion. Once it’s completed, you take it off your list. There’s that sense of accomplishment, no matter how small the accomplishment is.
You go on to the next task, until you actually get used to the idea of doing, rather than procrastinating.
Brainstorming with a friend, on the other hand, can be viewed as a positive, but can be a form of procrastination. You’ll say to yourself, “what she said makes sense”, so you mull over it, leaving the task undone.
Tip # 5 It’s mantra time once again
Once in awhile you’ll deviate from your intentions. You’re a human being with limitations, or else life, without warning, takes a detour, and we get derailed.
Let’s take a lesson from our brothers and sisters in the east who live by mantras that they recite to themselves every day.
Here’s one you can recite in the morning as you wake up: “I will not procrastinate today. It is unproductive. I have tasks to do, and I will write them down so I can decide which of them need to be done by 12 noon. My goal is to finish at least 2 big tasks and 2 small ones”.
Begin using these five tips beginning today and end your procrastination habit.
If you’re like most people you may not even recognize when those negative emotions happen especially when they happen all the time. Maybe you’ve never been able to find positive way to deal with negative feelings. You might even deny it’s happening and use food, cigarettes, or alcohol to numb your feelings. But can this lead to a positive outcome? No.
The first thing to realize is that while you can’t always control what happens to you, you can certainly control your response to what happens to you. Remaining to be calm and managing your feeling is a skill you can learn. The choice to learn is strictly yours. Past events control your feeling, your feeling determine your action, lack of action, wrong or right actions.
Feeling self confident or feeling low self esteem both trigger responses. One positive the other negative. Emotions are important because they help us deal with different situations in different ways.
Four core emotions that effects everyone anger, sadness, fear and joy. If you understand what your reactions are and work on moderating and managing, you will feel more in control of yourself and more confident of handling various situations.
More on these emotions another day. Just remember it’s natural to accept you have these emotions sometime feeling more then one at a time. But controlling them means first and foremost accepting yourself.
Motivation is defined by Wikipedia as s the set of reasons that cause you to engage in a particular behavior. Motivation may be rooted in the basic need to minimize physical pain and maximize pleasure. Motivation is what keeps us going. It causes some to succeed and others to fail The elements of motivation is dynamic and include simplicity, attitude, the people you hang around, the way you think, knowing yourself, helping other people and so much more.
Elements of motivations:
Keeping things simple. It would be difficult to get or stay motivated in an environment that’s cluttered and uninviting. Keeping your space clear helps to keep your mind clear and a opens the door for motivation.
Keep good company. Much of what motivate you or fails to motivates you can be directly correlated with the company you keep. Have you ever noticed that when you’re in the company of a highly motivated individual you become more motivated. On the other side of that coin when you’re with someone who is down depressed and negative you begin to feel the same way.
Keep Learning. Learning promotes a healthy brain. A healthy brain is a motivated brain. Learn something new every day. You’ll feel excited about what you’ve learned and the desire to put it into action is likely response. Learning something new means learning something positive. Learning something positive creates positive motivation and an all around good feeling.
Fear of failure, fear of change, even fear of success can hold you back from creating a life by design. Uncertainty and doubt can and will erode your self confidence and lower your self esteem. The one thing in life you can be sure of, is we all have fear. Being afraid is a normal part of living but letting fear hold the key to your happiness will undoubtedly affect your joy for living.
The first step to eliminating fear is identifying the cause. Self talk is ineffective unless you understand the root of the problem. When fear overrules your life it effects both your mind and body.
We talk to ourselves all day every day. Except most of the time we say negative things to ourselves.
“Nobody likes me”
“I can’t get anything right”
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me”
“I’m so dumb”
Does any of this sound familiar?
Self-talk is more then just positive thinking and positive talk. Thinking about something and never taking action is just thinking. Yes you’ll feel better but it will have a limited impact on your life unless you take that thinking and add a quotient of action.
So when you look at it that way, self-talk at least effective self-talk, is action talk. You can say to yourself all day everyday for a year “I’m successful” but if there’s no action behind the words it’s pretty meaningless.
Do not let fear control your life. Self-talk will help you to do anything you want when your use positive thinking. Some people are afraid to climb over a fence. To overcome this fear of going over the fence, tell yourself you can do it. Face it and force yourself to go over the fence to the other side. Overcoming a fear systematically and self-talk your way through each step will help you to accomplish this fear. Think positive you can and will do it to succeed.
The key is to talk small steps every day. When a negative thought comes into your mind reverse it with something positive. And most importantly take an action step to reinforce the positive self-talk.
You are in control of your own desitiny, by the actions you take each and every day. Be self-aware, and self-confident to improve your self-esteem.
If you’ve ever tried to lose weight you know the mantra eat less and exercise more. This same prescriptions can help you decrease the effects of stress in your life. Here are a few helpful tips:
- Aim for 30 minutes of exercise at least three days a week. This includes simple steps and changes in your lifestyle. Take the steps in a building instead of the stairs. Park further away from your office or the store. If you have steps in your home make the trip up and down the stairs twice instead of once. You’d be surprise how much more activity you can get by simple changes in your lifestyle.
- Stretch – stretching can keep your muscles feeling relaxed and helps to relieve stress.
- Accept the aging process- many people have trouble coming to terms with their body’s changes as they age. Remember aging is a natural process. But that doesn’t mean you don’t do things that will make yourself feel good and be happy. Your hair may turn grey but that doesn’t mean your muscles have to turn to flab.
- Don’t just drink water, enjoy water. It’s important to drink 8 – 10 eight ounces of water each day. It doesn’t have to be a chore. Put a slice of lemon or a few strawberry’s in your water it will not only be fun to look at but add a little flavor.
- Hide or throw away the scaleif you tend to weight yourself too often. A scale can be an ingredient for disaster when it comes to self improvement and loosing weight. The scale doesn’t tell all. You can gain muscle mass and loose body fat although the scale won’t move because muscle weights more then fat you will be doing exactly what needs to be done and more.
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