Getting Ahead by Bring Your Work and Life into Balance

Stressed womanYou may love your job or hate it, but one thing is certain.  Your job can stress you out!  Pole who are vulnerable to job stress may have particularly stressful jobs.  This is particularly true for executives who are driven by deadlines, and deal with difficult people, or for those of us who have a high internal pressure to succeed.

Here is a list of common work-related problems

  • Too little time
  • Too many responsibilities
  • Multiple interruptions
  • Excessive work loads
  • Emotional distress (anger, frustration worry or fear)
  • Conflicts with other people
  • Uncertainty (not knowing what to do)
  • Discrimination
  • Lack of appreciation

So, if your job and hectic lifestyle seems to take its toll in your physical, emotional and psychological well-being, stress relief techniques can bring your life back into balance.

Now for the myth about corporate loyalty.

In the business world, most employers say they care about their employees.  After all, people are their most important resource, so they’d better take care of them or they may lose them in the long run.  But for many companies, dollars are far more important than people.  When the chips are down, money will be conserved and people will be sacrificed.  The reason why money is more important to these companies than you are is because you can be replaced.  If you burn out, have a heart attack, or become disabled, someone else will take your place.

I don’t mean to imply that every company or all corporate leaders are insincere about their commitment to their employees well-being.  Sometimes you will find a company that is truly committed to you and your welfare.  I know because I work for one of those companies.  But the truth is finding a company like that is pretty rare these days.

The lack of loyalty itself is not the major culprit.  Rather it is our unconscious expectation that produce most of our stress and suffering.

So how do you deal with work stress?  Dealing with stress is critical and the first critical piece of business is to ignore the myth and get down to work doing the best job you possibility can.  Second, identify what areas of your work life are causing you the most stress.  Get out a pen and piece of paper or your journal if you have one (I highly recommend you do keep a journal), and answer the following questions.

  1. This is how I feel about the people I work with
  2. This is how I feel about the environment in which I work
  3. This is how I feel about the values and purpose behind my employer
  4. This is how I feel about the actual day-to-day work I do
  5. My favorite thing about work is
  6. My least favorite thing about work is
  7. I wish my job could change in these ways.

How you manage the stressors at your job depends on what those stressors are.  You can take different approaches:

  • Avoid the stressor
  • Eliminate the stressor (delegate or share a hated task)
  • Confront the stressor (talk to y0ur supervisor)
  • Manage the stressor (add something enjoyable to the task, give yourself a reward after completion)
  • Balance the stressor (put up with the stress but practice stress-relieving  techniques to balance out the effects)
  • Take short breaks. In times when you’re mentally stressed, take a break to clear your mind. Stepping away from your desk  briefly allows you to relax and recharge.
  • Create an uplifting environment. Decorate your office with photos, plants to liven up your workspace, or items that can lift your spirits.
  • Leave work at WORK. It’s important to distinguish your work life and living a life outside of work. Don’t burn yourself out by doing work after you get home at night.

Work is a big part of your life.  And as an executive you have a lot of responsibilities and a great number of people depending on you to be at your best, acting in their best interest no matter what’s going on around you.  If you can do something to avoid, eliminate, confront or balance the stress that comes from your work life, you entire life will be more balanced a less stressful.

Stress Free Living Tips

  1. Unclutter your life
  2. Smile
  3. Be prepared for rain
  4. Tickle a baby
  5. Pet a friendly dog/cat
  6. Don’t know all the answers
  7. Look for a silver lining
  8. Say something nice to someone
  9. Teach a kid to fly a kite
  10. Walk in the rain

How Meditating Can Ease Anxiety

beautiful middle eastern teenage girl in yoga poseThe fast-paced, hectic world we live with an unhealthy amount of stress. Stress develops into, or manifests itself as, worries and fears, leading to feelings of anxiety. Have you fallen into this frustrating path?

You can ease anxiety by understanding your worries and fears.  A natural way to ease anxiety is the use of meditation.

Meditation is a basic technique that can get you in better touch with yourself. It relieves stress, relaxes your body, and calms your mind.

Starting Out With Meditation

There are different ways you can approach a meditative practice. Start by picking a time everyday when you can calmly be alone without distractions. Begin your meditation by taking deep breaths and focusing only on each breath as it goes in and out.

On a particularly stressful day, you might have more difficulty focusing on your breath. The thoughts of whatever is stressing you may keep getting in the way. When this happens, acknowledge the thought and then go back to concentrating on your breath. Eventually, you’ll feel your mind grow calm.

As you calm your mind, begin purposefully taking notice of your thoughts. All you do is notice your thoughts, and then return your attention to your breath again. If any thoughts make you uncomfortable or tense, relax your muscles and then focus on your breath again.

Try not to stress yourself out further by getting frustrated with the meditation process. As you continue to practice, it will get easier.

So what’s  your best stress free living tip?

7 Tips To Relieve Stress

It seems like you hear it all the time from nearly every one you know – “I’m SO stressed out!”  There’s plenty of pressures to be had today causing stress and anxiety. Most people are unprepared to deal with stressors that trigger feelings that can make us sick.  Literally, sick.

Stress is far more dangerous than we thought. You’ve probably heard that it can raise your blood pressure, increasing the likelihood of a stroke in the distant future, but recently a health insurance brochure claimed that 90 percent of visits to a primary care physician were stress-related disorders.

Health Psychology magazine reports that chronic stress can interfere with the normal function of the body’s immune system. And studies have proven that stressed individuals have an increased vulnerability to catching an illness and are more susceptible to allergic, autoimmune, or cardiovascular diseases.

Doctors agree that during chronic stress, the functions of the body that are nonessential to survival, such as the digestive and immune systems, shut down. This is why people get sick.

Stress often prompts people to respond in unhealthy ways such as smoking, drinking alcohol, eating poorly, or becoming physically inactive. This damages the body in addition to the wear and tear of the stress itself.
Although there is no definitive answer to any of the stressor you may experience listed are a seven coping mechanisms that may support your ability to manage stress.

7 Tips

  1. Know how to relax and log to of tension
  2. Eat right and exercise often
  3. Get enough sleep
  4. Become more organized
  5. Know the difference between what truly important and what is not and don’t worry about the unimportant things
  6. Know what’s important and live according to your own values
  7. Have a good sense of humor

Stress is a part of daily life.  It’s how we react to it that makes all the difference in maintaining our health and well-being.  Pressures occur throughout life and those pressures cause stress.  You need to realize that you will never completely get rid of stress in your life, but you can learn coping techniques to turn that stress into a healthier situation.

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Here’s a few quick stress relief tips to decrease depression

Is there a relationship between stress and depression – you betcha there is.  Everybody’s stressed out these days. If you don’t do something about it can eventually lead to depression.  When you feel depressed, you just want to lie on the sofa while the television drones on in the background. You aren’t really watching anything that takes too much energy.

The last thing you want to do is get outside – but that’s exactly what you need to do.  The challenge of depression is working against what you feel inclined to do. Yet if you get moving, you’ll find surprising relief from the stress and depression that seems to choke you.

Exercise is an absolute necessity  to regaining a sense of self-control.  It helps you focus on something other then the situation that’s causing you to feel stressed and depressed. It also provides a better night’s sleep, which helps your immune system rally against your stress factors.

When your stressed to the point of depression don’t place too many demands on yourself. You’ll only  feel overwhelmed.  So you have to start with simple, specific steps, such as:

  • Begin with basic self-care. Set your alarm clock and get out of bed without lying there thinking about it. Then go directly to take a shower and get dressed in clean clothes. No pajamas – real clothes.
  • Set a place with real dishes at the table for your breakfast. Even if you only eat a bagel and drink juice, don’t do it standing up in the kitchen. Sit down and eat as if you were in a restaurant. And if you have good china, use it.
  • Choose one activity outside the house to complete before lunch. That might be something as simple as walking around the block or going outside to water the flowers.
  • Drive to a nearby mall or large discount store. Start at one end and walk up and down every aisle. When you get to the other side, start aisle-walking again until you’re back where you started. Then you can go back and look at anything that seemed interesting. Something is bound to catch your eye and get the focus off the situation.  The key is to get moving.
  • Go to a park in the late afternoon. Find the swing set and swing. It’s amazing how this activity makes you feel like a child who is happy to be outdoors.
  • If you’re going to watch television watch something funny.  For one of my clients  it was watching the old classic “I Love Lucy”.  She had  seem all the episodes many times so they don’t require concentration but will still get her  to smile

Exercise to relieve stress and depression doesn’t have to mean marathon training or aerobics. You don’t even have to go to the gym unless you’re ready to go. Even simple activities will make a big difference in your mood.

When you realize that nothing in life is permanent and that the storm you’re caught up in right now will eventually pass, you’ll take a big step towards reducing stress and depression. And combine this with tips and techniques above you’ll have an effective strategy to help the situation pass quickly.

I hope this made you think about how you handle stress and depression.  Let me know how you’re going to use this information in your life by leaving a comment.  See the link underneath this sentence.

Enlightenment – Your 7 Day Program To Positive Thinking

I’m sure you have a bright idea hidden somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can’t wait to test out. Of course you’re not the only one with the bright idea. So what motivates you to churn those creative, or even inspiring juices to its utmost flavor?

It’s always best to set up a personal goal where you can accomplish the most in record time, maybe like mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV. A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.

Here are some tips to make it through the week even if you’re just sitting in your favorite couch. An idea takes time to form in your head and is always at work while you are busy sitting.

Having a bit of positive thinking can help you realize things that are never thought possible. Thinking big is indeed the American Way and that what made our country prosperous.

  1. Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action = deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Without it, passion is void.  This is a perfect example where dreams are made of where you start by tinkering with your mind, then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always go back to it later until you finish it.
  2. Commit to yourself as well as those you love to create powerfully a life you can love. Instead of reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The American Dream will always be there, but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins.
  3. Recognize and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome. Every time you hit on something that may appear too extreme, why not give it a shot and see if it will work. You will be surprised to see of there are other ways to get the task done in time. If you are not pleased with the outcome, decide to use that moment to learn from and make the appropriate shift.
  4. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to utilize what you have in your hands and make use of it in the most constructive way. Slipping into neediness will become less of a habit when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude, away from poverty consciousness.
  5. Use a Passion Formula of Reveal/Release/Rejuvenate in place of the Shoulda/Woulda/Coulda whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack. As you face people or tasks that may seem harder than scaling the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is just as important as giving out orders. You would rather be richly passionate!
  6. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself when possible. You may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up!  Life has so much to offer to allow yourself to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate: life-giving.
  7. Believe that you are the architect of your own destiny. No one can take your passionate future from you except you! Create your life authentically. As long as there’s still breath in your body, there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime. The concept of thinking big is all about enjoying your work, which leads to self discovery. Watch your life as your passions flow into place with perfect, passionate and precision.

It’s interesting how people get consumed by something trivial.  But now you know you can create your life and take the first step with a positive attitude.

Stress Management – Take Back Your Mind Tip

This seems so easy to say, and such a challenge to do.  We live in such a technically advanced society, that finding simple solutions isn’t always our first approach and isn’t always easy.

The more complicated our lives, the more stressors we place on ourselves and the more stressful situations we find ourselves in.  Keeping things simple can reduce your stress.

What is one thing in your life that seems too complicated?

What are 3 simple solutions that you could use to make it less complicated?