Stress Management – It’s Easy to De-Stress – Just Say No!

Those most in need of stress management frequently are not the busy executive or the seeker of learning and higher consciousness. Mostly it’s people who are so busy with their hectic stress filled lifestyle they don’t have time to read a book much less meditate for 30 minutes a day. A “half an hour” sputters the busy homemaker, “I could have dinner made in half an hour”. Most of us are a product of the television and technology age. Suffering from have to have it now and it should be faster syndrome.

You take on the extra project and your to-do list becomes even as expansive. You find yourself helping friends or family who seek your assistants with tasks they find they aren’t able to complete. How do you say no and still look like a good guy or good gal.

Unless you have a ready made excuse – you can’t because you’re working or you’re out of town it’s really can be difficult to say no. Saying no we put ourselves on a self inflicted guilt trip. Feeling guilty not being able to help, and overwhelmed and resentful by the prospect of putting another task on the list. After all it’s in our nature to want to help others. It makes you feel wanted and needed.

Women in particular have difficulty with saying no. Being taught to be non-assertive and passive and to always be a help. Look up the word help-mate a companion and helper husband or wife. But let’s face it how many time have you heard the word used when talking about the husband? None right. Women take on the lion’s share of home responsibilities. Couple that with being the breadwinner and you may have a combination that screams “I’m stressed out”.

It’s time to put ourselves as #1 on our to-do list. We have to take care of ourselves first. And that means saying no to adding more on the list. Keep in mind that by saying no when you can’t take on another task is far better for your mental health because you won’t harbor any resentment of doing something for someone else when you essentially don’t have time or desire to do so. One thing you may not think of is to say no to technology. Turn off the phone, turn off the computer and television. They cry for attention, much in the same way as a friend or family does. And when they scream, rest and relaxation will simply float away.

Take care of yourself first. Remember you’re not the rescue squad.