Stressed-Out Business Owners – Are you Catching a Enough ZZZZZs?

tired_young_woman_sleeping_in_her_office_on_her_laptopThe obstacle to your peace could be a number of things – the voice in your head reminding you of past mistakes, concern over not making enough money, or disagreements with your family .  Your obstacle might be the health scare you had when you went for your cancer screening, or your unruly teen who is tattooing and piercing every part of her body.

All of it causing stress and having a negative impact on your mind body and spirit including not getting enough sleep.  In any case, if you aren’t getting enough sleep you are increasing your stress, compromising your health and probably operating well below your potential.

One of the first and most important things to do to build a stress resilient  body is to get enough sleep on a regular basis. 

Here’s what I mean.  You look at the clock. It’s 2 a.m. You’ve been trying to get to sleep since 11 pm, and you’re still awake.  Your mind races, your eyes are burning and worse still you feel exhausted.. Your muscles are tense. You think you’ll never get any rest. Sound familiar? if so, you are one of 60 million people in the U.S. who suffer from some form of insomnia.

A recent survey by the National Sleep Foundation indicates that 58 percent of adults in America experience insomnia at least a few nights a week. Insomnia increases with age, afflicting approximately 30 percent of men and 40 percent of women.

Over half of the American work force reports that sleepiness on the job interferes with the amount of work they complete.

Unfortunately sleep disorders and insomnia often disturb our sleep even if we go to bed on time.

Sleep deprivation has a specific and dramatic physical effect on the body.  Te average adults requires eight hours of sleep per night.  If you don’t get enough sleep you could experience the following:

  • Increased irritability
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Decreased ability to concentrate and understand information
  • Increase likelihood of making mistakes andhaving accidents
  • Increased clumsiness and slower reaction times
  • A suppressed immune system
  • Undesirable weight gain. 

We may not be able to eliminate all stress from our lives, but we can minimize it. Here are some strategies:

  • Figure out why you aren’t’ getting enough sleep, then commit to changing your routine.  How can you rearrange your schedule to get some things done earlier, allowing for an earlier bedtime.
  • Get thing out of your head and down on paper.  Make a list. Organize your next day’s activities into three categories: “To Call,” “To Buy, “To Do.” Attach a specific time to each activity, and rest assured that you won’t wake up to chaos.
  • Create a bedtime ritual for yourself.  Your routine should include a series of steps that are conducive to relaxation – for example a bath or shower, then perhaps a few minutes of deep breathing.  Read or listen to music as you drink a cup of herbal tea or warm milk. Create a barrier of calm between your jam-packed day and your bedtime.
  • Try not to get into the habit of falling asleep in front of the TV.
  • Do some progressive relaxation techniques.  Relax your body.  When you get into bed, lie flat your back for a few minutes. Tense and relax each muscle group as you work your way up from your toes to your temples.
  • Monitor your breathing by focusing on breathing in and out without any expectation.  This will allow you to relax and not feel tense because you haven’t fell asleep yet.

If you continue to have trouble sleeping it may be a good idea to speak with your doctor.  To rule out any medical reasons, most of which have an easy quick such as sleep apnea.  I now several business owners who burn the midnight oil and wonder why they are not as effective as they would like to be in the morning.  Sleeping is just as important as eating and breathing and sleep deprivation  should not be taken lightly.  Remember feeling energized and ready to go in the morning takes a good night sleep.

 

What To Do When Stress Makes You Feel Rotten

Image: Woman with face in handsYou might be  tearing your hair out with all the aggravation, grief, anxiety, and of course, frustration.   You may be in at a point and place in your life that you would love to find inner peace but not sure where to start looking.  It’s been so long since you felt at peace with your life.

But I’d like to point out that being proactive is the best way to find peace.

As one stressed-out person to another, I know how it feels, and believe me there are many alternatives when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can’t blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what’s bugging you anyway?

There are several ways to manage stress, and eventually remove it out of your life one of these days.  So I’ll give you seven triggers that if you recognize them when they come I promise you you’ll feel better when deal with them head-on.

1. Accept that stress can be good

Make stress your friend!  Based on the body’s natural “fight or flight” response, that burst of energy will improve your performance at the correct time. I’ve yet to see a top athlete  entirely comfortable before a the big game.  The athlete uses stress to push themselves harder.

2. Dodge stress sneezers

When your stressed your immune system is suppressed and  more susceptible to infection.

Protect yourself by acknowledging your stressed and limit your contact with those with infections until you can get your stress under control.

3. Keep your cool

When everyone around you seems to be going crazy look around and see who’s keeping their cool. How are they acting?  What are they doing differently?  What is their attitude?  Does their body language seem different from others?

Watch them learn from them.  They are the natural stress managers.

4. Be a heavy breather when your stressed

This is something I’ve learned from Anthony Robbins.   You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal.

5. Give Negative thoughts the red light

If your ever ruminated and I know you have because everybody does about something that may happen it’s almost always negative.  For example what am I going to do if I fail this test; its not what am I going to do when I ace this test.  It’s what am I going to do if this project is not done on time, it’s not how am I going to celebrate when I get this project done on time.  Without putting the kibosh on those negative thoughts it will cause unnecessary worry.

Stop stressful thoughts in their tracks.  The simplest way to do this is when you get a negative thought say “STOP” to halt that thought in its track.

6. Know your trigger points and hot spots

Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines…. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down!

Make your very own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only when you get ready to give a presentation to a group that gets you stirred up?   Does one project cause a lot more tension than another?  Is it when you drink 3 cups of coffee instead of one cup?

Understanding what triggers you tension is powerful information.  Do you need to acquire upgrade your skills, optimize your environment or switch to decaf coffee.

7. Burning the candle at both ends

Poor sleeping habits, bad diet, lack of exercise ruins our body and thoughts.  Have you ever heard the saying don’t burn the candle at both ends?  Well pay attention because this is worth listening to.

So being stress can be a drag, but it doesn’t have to keep  us to finding the peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time.

Journey Into Creative Thinking

attractive business woman with a magic wand and hatHow many times have you caught yourself thinking there has to be another way to solve this problem only to come up blank.

How often have you felt frustrated because you knew exactly what the  problem was but had not ideal of how to solve it.  No idea, nada, zip, zero, just can’t come up with the RIGHT solution no matter how hard you try.  Matter of fact, the more you try the further away the solution drifts from your mind.

The number of  possible solution  may be exhausting and too overwhelming to come up with a single answer.  Maybe you feel like you’re walking up the side of a mountain to get to the other side only to find another mountain once you reach the top.  The pressure to find THE ANSWER  puts you in overload.

 

But celebrate! There is hope!

When you get creative you can look at your problems and see them in a different light.  The solution may be right under your nose and you just can’t see it.

First you need to be open minded and allow for the fact there is probably more than one solution to the problem.  That creates an environment to take an unsolvable problem to a solvable solution.   With a positive mindset you can get more creative in solving a problem.

  • Trying writing down all the possible solutions.  Just put everything down on paper.  Even if one of your ideas for a solution is far-fetched
  • Don’t restrain your thinking. 
  • Explore funny ideas or even foolish ideas
  • Look at the problems through the eyes of a scientist, or athletic, artist or child
  • Allow yourself to be playful
  • Let go of fears, judgment’s, assumptions, biases or criticisms
  • Visualize to see new opportunities, and think creatively.
  • Define the problem by asking questions
  • Who, how, what, when, where and why.
  • Recall past experiences both good and bad
  • Explore strategies identifying the benefits, drawbacks and obstacles. 

Sometimes you have to venture into uncharted territory to make progress fully knowing problems are an opportunity in disguise.

Here is one example of the creative process at work.

Take a piece of paper and write any word that comes to mind at the center. Now look at that word then write the first two words that come to your mind. This can go on until you can build a tree of related words. This helps you build analogical skills, and fortify your creative processes.

So, next time you see a problem you think you can not solve, think again. The solution might just be staring you right in the face. All it takes is just a little creative thinking, some planning, and a whole lot of work.

Journaling Your Way To A Clear Mind

meditation-with-computer-in-wheat-fieldWhen we are thinking and feeling (vibrating) in accordance with what we desire, the actions come from a place of inspiration and it is always the right action to take. The results in your life naturally flow into manifestation.

Keeping a journal can be a healthy outlet for letting go of the tedious clutter of thoughts and freeing yourself to be more fore
giving, compassionate  productive and less burdened by the overwhelm of life.  Take a little time to write down your thoughts in the morning.  This exercise will help you clear out the disorder and confusion in your mind and free up you creative juices.  To help you get started, consider the following questions as suggestions for getting you off on the right foot.

  • Write whatever comes to mind
  • Don’t worry about punctuation, grammar, or spelling
  • Simply be in the moment with your random thoughts and feelings.  And if you can’t think about anything to write then write that and repeat it as many times as you need to until you recognize another random thought.
  • What are you thinking, feeling, dreaming, imagining or hop for?

Writing enables you to access parts of your deeper self.  When you transcribe your thoughts and feelings on paper, you are opening a gateway in your mind for healing.

By working with your feelings, thoughts, and intentions, you can become a master creator.

Commit to Journaling for 2 weeks and let me know how it goes!

You’re A Real Fathead… and So Am I

121129_omega-3Fat is a fearsome word to most people.  For decades nutritionists and medical professionals have warned us that fats are bad for us.  They raise our cholesterol, clog our arteries and tend to make us…. well fat.  But if you take this at face value then you will avoid fat like the plague.  But that’s just plain wrong.

We need fats.  We’d be dead without them.  They’re critical to the well being of every cell in our bodies, and they’re critical building blocks for the construction of every neuron in our brains.

Did you know your brain is mostly made up of fat?

It sounds like a straight line from a stand-up comedy routine  but it’s true.  The human is about 60% fat by dry weigh.  Fat molecules (sometimes called fatty acids) play a critical role in the construction of brain cells and the insulation of nerve fibers.

But all fats are not created equal.  The essential dietary fats come in tow versions - Omega-3 and omega-6.  They play a complementary roles in the brain and the rest of the body.  When all goes well, omega-3 and omega-6 work in harmony to keep us firing on all cylinders.  But when our dietary fats fall out of balance, we become vulnerable to many forms of illness.  Depression is one of the most common.

According to studies, hour hunter-gather ancestors maintained a superb balance of omega-6s and omega-3s in their diets, usual in a 1:1 ratio.   The typical American, on the other hand, has a radically imbalanced fat intake heavily slated in favor of omega-6s.  The ration in the modern American diet now stands at a staggering 16:1 ratio.

Fortunately, the body is able to make many of the fat molecules the brain needs.  But their are some forms that the body can’t manufacture on its own, these fats can be obtain only form our diet.  And among the most important dietary  fats is a group called omega-3 fatty acids- critical building blocks for brain structure an function.

Omega-3 fatty acids are found mainly  in fish, wild game, nuts, seeds and leafy vegetable, all thing found in abundance.  Our distance ancestors ate five to ten times more omega-3 fat than we do today.  In fact, omega-3s have gradually disappeared from the American diet over the past century.

In the past our great-grandparents, for example, ate beef cattle that were free range, where the cattle ate grasses and wild plants sources of omega-3.  Remarkably beef used to be good for us.  Today’s cattle in contract are mostly grain-fed, and have little beneficial omega-3

Omega-3 fats are made in the leaves of plants, grasses, and algae.  Any animal that eats one of these omega-3 plant sources quickly absorbs the essential fats directly into its own body.  So, for example we find high levels of omega-3 fats in wild game, which feed on grasses.  and many species of wild fish that fee on algae.

Omega-6s fats on the other hand, are usually concentrated in plant seeds.  These fats are also abundant in nuts and grains.   One of the biggest changes involved the shift form leaves to seed in the diet of livestock.

To restore your dietary balance of omega-6 and omega-3 fats, there are really only two major possibilities to consider.  You can either

  • Increase your intake of omega-3s 
  • Decrease your intake of omega-6s

You can do this by:

  • Switiching to grass-feed beef or simply drop beef from your diet
  • Stick mostly with lean meats like chicken breast and fish
  • Cook with olive oil, or coconut oil
  • Use butter instead of margine
  • supplement with a good omega-3 supplement.

So now that you know that it’s good to be a fathead.  What are you going to do to add omega-3s to your diet and decrease your intake of omega 6s.

 

 

 

 

Getting To The Heart Of Stress

heartFor thousands of years, many believed that stress could make you sick.  But until science supported this fact there was little done about stress in the area of medicine.  To tell the truth there is still very little done about stress even today in the western medicine except for maybe prescribing a pill.

The truth is many approaches like meditation, prayer, music, sleep, yoga.. and the list goes I know in my heart really work to maintain health.

Heart disease is the number-one cause of death in the United States and many other countries in the world.  One of the most devastating results of long-term chronic stress may turn out to be its like to heart disease.  This fact is not surprising because stress can increase your blood pressure, constrict your blood vessels  raise your cholesterol lever, trigger arrhythmias, and speeds up the rate at which your blood clots.

Stress is now considered a major risk factor in heart disease, right up there with smoking, being overweight, and lack of exercise.

Today there is convincing evidence that stress and emotions such as hostility and anger play a significant role in the development of heart disease.  In the 1950′s researcher Robert Shekelle found that high hostility was a significant predictor of increased risk of heart disease.

In one study conducted by Redford Williams, found that individuals with high hostility scores had the most coronary blockage.  In fact, over 70 percent of the subjects in his study with high hostility scores had severe blockages.

Now that you know how stress can effect you heart it’s time for a bit of Instant ahhhh.. 

When you are triggered by stress, anger and hostility, you need a way to induce relaxation instantly.  You need a cue, like the command “Relax,” in order to reduce your anxiety as quickly as possible.  Get comfortable in a seated position. Take a deep breath and hold it for an extra moment.  When you release this breath, focus on blowing your worries far away   Let go of any excess tension still in your body.  Continue to breathe in and out deeply and rhythmically, saying to yourself silently.  ”breath in”  on the inhale and “breath out longer”  on  the exhale.  Follow this repetition for five minutes.

With each breath peace, and calm comes in and tension and stress moves out.

What do you do to get instant ahhhh?

Hormonal Imbalance and Stress

iStock_000001014079XSmallA healthy woman needs an ratio of estrogens, progesterone, and testosterone throughout life

Fluctuations in estrogen can have dramatic effects on how we feel, think, and function. Even tiny changes in estrogen levels can cause symptoms.

Although for women estrogen plays a role in stress response, it’s  important to understand this isn’t evidence that women can’t handle stress

I sometimes feel sorry for estrogen. It gets a bad rap for so many things. Women hear that too much estrogen causes breast disease, and too little causes everything from hot flashes to hair loss.

  • Unwanted hair growth
  • Irritability
  • Water retention
  • Weight gain
  • Cyclical migraines
  • Headaches
  • Mood swings
  • Skin outbreaks
  • Digestive imbalance
  • Fuzzy thinking
  • Uterine fibroids
  • PMS
  • Breast/gynecological cancers
  • Lupus

Keep in mind that your hormones are continually changing — even on a moment-to-moment basis. Diet and lifestyle have a tremendous effect upon your entire body. So do your genes, which influence not just how your body produces hormones, but how it responds to them.

Dietary and lifestyle changes. Lifestyle is a critical factor in the production and storage of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone to support hormonal balance. Here are four simple elements to start with today.

  • Limit exposure to synthetic foods. Choose organic foods when possible
  •  Eat a natural, plant-based diet. Eating lots of vegetables provides fiber, which feeds the beneficial flora in your intestines, which help you metabolize your hormones the way Mother Nature intended. Plant foods also provide your body with phytoestrogens, which protect your body from damaging effects of synthetic foods. Good choices include legumes, licorice, yams, and anything in the broccoli/cabbage family. Foods to avoid include those made with refined flours, sugars, partially hydrogenated fats, and artificial ingredients.
  • Restore balance with supplements. High-quality daily nutritional supplements to help restore a woman’s hormonal balance, such as B-vitamins and omega-3 fatty acids can help increase your body’s ability to balance its hormone ratios.
  • Manage stress levels.  Chronic stress fuels high levels of adrenaline and cortisol, stress hormones, one common effect of excessive cortisol is excess belly fat.    known to alter the feedback loops regulating our sex hormones.